As I was feeling compelled to write this blog post, I happen to stop writing and went to Facebook. Honestly, I already had the words and details in mind and the picture I wanted to use for this post, but all I kept thinking was should I write this because I already know here comes the judgmental Christians, the (In the bible) type people, men who daddies didn’t teach them a woman’s body is more than a sexual object (Yeah, I said, “Tell Your Daddy”) LOL-I love that video btw!
Anyway, or even those women who go all “women need to cover up” holy! I was really sitting here like although my heart really wants to write this article I was nervous about the backlash but then I get on FB and of course a couple posts down I see a post about, a “virtuous woman and wife material” and what that means and how women need to “love their body and value themselves.” It made me angry because I'm so sick of these posts and ideals.
Somehow we teach that loving yourself and showing a little skin can't be synonymous.
Now don’t get me wrong there are women out there that use their body to be desired, for likes and comments on Social Media and even before SM, there are women who has made a living off their bodies, but grouping women, sexuality and the woman’s body into one ideal of “Value” is just plain dangerous.
I will forever fight that stupid system that has told women that what they are born with make men sin.
“Dude you were born from this, you should feel lucky these roses pushed you out”
If breasts, butt, bare shoulders and exposed legs offend you, don’t fit your ideals or make you sin, fix yourself and your thoughts. It’s not a woman’s responsibility to protect you from you. Do you realize the most covered, modest woman can still be the most abused behind closed doors, it’s not the lack of clothing it’s the problem of control, control of women’s body, thoughts and feelings? There are cultures that rip and tear at a woman’s body because of these dangerous ideologies. We have organizations fighting for their rights but it’s hard with what we are taught.
I use to be more vocal and somewhere along the road I became a wimp because of what others may think, I had to step on my own toes this morning and as I was sitting thinking the letter just poured out on it's own before I started to type.
In every race and shape this letter is dedicated to you!
Almost six years ago I didn’t understand the power of being a woman, I didn’t understand the beauty of owning everything that belongs to me starting internally that reflected my soul outwardly. I didn’t realize I controlled these roses, when I did it opened my eyes to the abuse and stolen roses taken from young girls and women around the world because of the lack of education and respect. Somehow, I realized that the bible I was reading came from men, that spilled over into a society that still didn’t have a positive stance on what it meant to be a woman in all its glory, that protection, submissiveness and crown on his head verses was being interpreted by a human man in all his human form and mind.
I didn’t appreciate the women that embraced sexuality and feminism because I thought they were corrupting everything I was taught until I realized those beautiful strong women connected their souls and hearts to the things that made them feel and look alive, often we are truly blocked from that. We are covered with shame and guilt from exploration of other women’s minds, cultures, beliefs and freeness so that we don’t interrupt the ideals that we never had a say in.
Those ideals that has shamed our daughters and mothers for centuries women whose roses are stolen from them. Their innocence is tied to bare legs, exposed shoulders and skirt lengths. We failed to protect you from the ignorance of men that has only built a system that maneuvers around their wicked thoughts and feelings all because they don’t want to put in the energy teaching the right things.
I am sorry that generations before you taught you that sex, cooking and birth is all you must offer. I am sorry the generation before you didn’t teach you that sex, cooking and birth doesn’t keep your relationship together, sorry that the generation before you made you feel that sex was the number 1 thing you must offer to keep him, it’s made you not think twice about who you tie your soul with or giving you the freedom of making that choice for yourself, because it’s been taught that your body is the biggest thing you must offer. Girl, let me tell you, let it go, let go of men that see you as objects, take your power back. Let go and stop allowing society to view you as just merely a body, I am sorry young girl that we allowed the word “modesty” to shape your experience in your womanhood. It is our responsibility as a society (as a whole) to look at women as a human being. There are cultures (including our own), that tear, manipulate, destroy, abuse women’s body at the hands of “modesty.” Thank God for the beautiful and mysterious body of a woman. Your value isn’t set by how you decide to dress at a beach or if a bra is required in this stupid summer heat. Those same breasts that were created to feed the kids, is the same breasts that’s allowed to be free as the wind.
I've said this once and I'll say it again,
"I hope this post makes you uncomfortable, it should make you uncomfortable it should make you uncomfortable to teach women that what they are born with causes others to fall because of what we as humans have created---we have shaped the meaning and ideas of a woman’s body to fit our own ideology."